This post is written for the public good, not to defame anyone, and I state that it does not contain false facts or subjective distortion of the facts. Consultation: nasal revision surgery Director's name: Lee Gyu-ho I have had one nose surgery before, and for the past two months I had been going to plastic surgery and ENT clinics for consultations after being diagnosed with a slight inflammatory reaction to the silicone, a foreign-body sensation, and early contracture (almost no visible signs). I was not someone whose nose had no material left to use, even after repeated inflammation, and other hospitals also said the inflammation seemed under control and recommended surgery such as leaving it as is, or removing the silicone, cleaning it, and replacing it. But I myself regretted, having put silicone in my nose when I was young and knew nothing, and I wanted surgery to remove the silicone and raise the bridge and tip with autologous cartilage. I understood that usually, when the bridge is already somewhat high, surgeons use no implant or use silicone, and I also understood that there are limits to raising the bridge with autologous cartilage (not dermis), that there are side effects such as shape distortion, and that the shape is less defined than with silicone. Over nearly two or three months, I visited many plastic surgery clinics, received consultations, and in my own way studied hard by reading all kinds of sites and cafes, including various directors, journals, forums, and papers. Of course, even then there were directors who would not perform the surgery I wanted or could not do it, so if our views did not match, I would politely say I understood and leave. From here on is the consultation I had with Director Lee xx. After the photos were taken, a computer screen showing the expected post-op result with Photoshop was displayed, and the director came in. I had already explained my opinion to the consultant before the consultation with the director, and it had been written in my chart, but the moment the director came in and looked at the chart, he said he understood the problem with my nose, edited the photo, and spoke for more than 10 minutes about improving the shape. I had not come to focus on beauty or shape improvement, but since it seemed impolite to interrupt while the director was speaking, I listened until the end, and when he asked if I had any questions after the consultation, I explained my situation and asked whether he would perform surgery using autologous cartilage on the bridge. (I asked very politely.) What follows is what I heard from Director Lee xx. - Are you the doctor? Are you better than me? My IQ is 148, so what is your IQ? Is it higher than mine? Why are you deciding the surgical material when you do not even know better than me? What you are doing now is exactly the same as a cancer patient coming to a surgeon and deciding their own operation method and asking to be treated that way. - So you came here having already decided all the materials for my surgery and are looking for a doctor who will operate according to that, right? What I find really ridiculous, or do not understand, is that this does not happen at any other hospital, but among plastic surgery patients there are people who come with their own surgical method and materials already decided, without any manners. - Did you go to medical school? Do you have more than 10 years of surgical experience? Have you understood what even I, who studied for 6 years and has performed surgery for more than 10 years, still do not understand? Say it: did you understand? Then why would you be the one doing the surgery instead of me? (No, that is not what I meant, Director...) What is your IQ? I am 148, so is yours higher than mine? !!!!! (I heard the IQ line at least five times...)
A coercive and one-sided consultation like this lasted for 20 minutes, and it was the worst consultation in which I felt humiliated. From the middle of it, I burst into tears and could not speak, and I had to listen to this person's verbal abuse. I am still so frightened and wronged. I have been to more than 15 plastic surgery consultations, and I met many directors whose style did not match mine or who did not perform the surgery I was considering. Among them, some tried to persuade me by asking why I wanted to do surgery in that way, some strongly recommended a different surgical method, some simply listened to everything I said, some seemed tired, and some sent me back immediately after hearing my opinion, saying they would not do it. There were all kinds of doctors. If Director Lee Gyu-ho had simply stated his own opinion, tried to dissuade me, or expressed his view somewhat strongly (which the consultant probably said was the case), I would not have minded, because I like hearing different opinions. But I think it is a seriously wrong thing to apply that kind of pressure and verbal abuse to a patient who came for consultation, and not let the patient say a single word. Hospital staff will probably see this post, but if the director sees it, I want to say this directly. If I had gone to medical school and had a lot of knowledge in plastic surgery and a lot of surgical experience, why would I bother going around for consultations and entrust my body to someone after paying a lot of money? Because I do not know, and because I am anxious, I look up information online, study, and ask whether surgery is possible with the material that appeals to me. I did not go around choosing a doctor whose tastes matched mine after deciding everything in advance; I went to hear an expert opinion, and in the process I only tried to state my own opinion. Did you really want to get so worked up just because it was a surgery you cannot do, or one you personally did not like, and then lash out so harshly at a patient who is about 30 years younger than you? Are you upset that only plastic surgery patients come in having already decided the material and method you would use for surgery? Plastic surgery is, for the most part, an operation performed by intentionally creating a wound in people who do not have a specific disease. Whether to use silicone or costal cartilage is something one can give an opinion on. You seemed to have great pride in your medical degree and IQ of 148, but I am also a graduate of a SKY engineering school, and I am not some particularly stupid or gullible person. Of course I may not be as smart as you in the field of plastic surgery, but by the same token, you would not know much about the field I majored in, would you? Who looks down on that? And what do academic pedigree, IQ, or appearance matter? I do not want to deal with people who do not have character, manners, and a proper attitude. If you see this post, I hope you reflect once again on the consultation you had with me and on yourself, Director Lee Gyu-ho. The tone may not come through well in writing, but it was extremely coercive, and with anyone listening, you could tell you were red-faced, banging the desk, and shouting. This was my first time experiencing something like this, so I was bewildered, wronged... The consultation director was very warm-hearted. I could feel that she sincerely comforted me while I was crying my eyes out)