[@] Hey, first of all,
you probably didn’t even want to think about your experience,
but thank you for telling me everything, even the difficult parts.
If it was that much, you must have been really stressed
Everything you wrote is right.
I also understand their position,
so I didn’t want to make the director or consultant
uncomfortable anymore,
and I don’t resent them at all for refusing.
I felt sorry about putting more pressure on them, so I said okay and ended it,
but from my point of view, it feels unfair to end it like this.
I only wanted a slightly better appearance than my current nose.
I would be okay as long as there weren’t side effects bigger than the side effects I have now.
I think the questions my boyfriend asked when he came with me caused a misunderstanding.
He asked how the shape would come out after surgery,
and when they said they couldn’t know now and didn’t know what the result would be, I guess he couldn’t understand it.
Then he asked, so the degree of improvement you mentioned,
which part improves and by how much?
The answer was similar then too.
Then he said he didn’t understand, since it’s plastic surgery at a plastic surgery clinic.
They said it would improve a little,
there would be some degree of improvement, but even that result
couldn’t be predicted or guaranteed,
but he said he couldn’t understand that..
At that point, I explained that other hospitals had said the same things, that my nose is in a very deformed state,
and since it isn’t a normal nose, it’s correct that they don’t know the result.
I said that to make it come out pretty, various materials would have to be used,
and that this isn’t that kind of place,
and so on.
But anyway,
the consultant said that if I wanted a pretty nose,
other materials could be used, but at this clinic the director does not use other materials, and if we thought that way, this hospital wasn’t a good match for us.
The consultant and my boyfriend both spoke carefully,
and there was no rude tone or behavior, but the atmosphere of the consultation conversation was bad, like a power struggle?
After the consultant consultation, I was supposed to consult with the director,
but I just said I had an urgent matter and would come another time,
then left and had a huge fight with my boyfriend.
I said, did you come with me for this? Don’t get involved from now on.
A few days later, when I was making a re-consultation appointment to go alone, the consultant had told the director what happened,
and the director said he would not do the surgery.
They said I didn’t need to visit.
I said I understood, and a few days later,
because I felt sorry for making the consultant uncomfortable that day, I went intending only to leave drinks at the hospital desk,
but a staff member at the hospital said,
since you came, you should see her before you go, and called the consultant.
But she welcomed me so warmly and told me to come in.
So we went into the consultation room and talked,
and as I explained my position and situation, she understood,
and when I said that’s why I had wanted to do it here and it was disappointing,
she said if she told the director that I thought that way
and that the situation had been like that, he would probably do it. So we set a date on good terms and I came home,
but then I got a call They said he wouldn’t do it.
She was sorry. He was upset and said to refund the deposit.
Whether it’s a boyfriend or husband, what difference does it make?
If he causes trouble, it’s the same, he said.
But wait, sorry, as I’m writing this it got too long
I’ll try to keep the rest brief.
After getting the deposit refunded, two days later the consultant gave me feedback,
so in the online consultation on the website,
I left an appeal trying to persuade the director too, writing about the situation, my position, my thoughts about my nose, the reasons I decided on this hospital, and so on, but the reply was a refusal.
That’s how it ended…
The consultant said there had been someone before who was also refused.
That person wrote a pledge saying they would not file a complaint after surgery
and had the surgery. I also thought about preparing even a pledge and going one last time,
but from the position of someone refusing, I thought it might feel burdensome and uncomfortable, so I can’t even go.
Leaving my contracted nose like this makes me anxious,
and I wonder if this means I’m not supposed to do it,
so I’m checking other removal hospitals or consultation places again,
but I don’t know if choosing another hospital out of necessity
and having surgery because I have no choice is really right