Hello, a few weeks ago? I wrote a post here along the lines of, “Whether I had facial contouring or not, I would have regretted it-”ㅠㅠ In early February, I had three types of facial contouring at ㄱㄹㅎ, and the conclusion is, well, I’m satisfied now. I was just worried about the future. (This is not hospital promotion or anything like that. I don’t particularly have bad feelings or affection for the hospital. No matter how much any hospital emphasizes that it is conscientious, in the end it’s a business, not volunteer work.)
※ This is not a post recommending plastic surgery, but comfort for “people who have already had cheekbone or facial contouring surgery and are living with worries.” So I hope you don’t decide to get plastic surgery after reading this post. If you are just thinking about plastic surgery, I think it would be good to be more careful about “why do I need plastic surgery?” and if you have already had it, I hope you can take some comfort from this. (Actually, I’m writing this to comfort myself while thinking back on what happened last night hehe)
To be honest, I was very depressed for several weeks. Before surgery, I was sad because my self-esteem was scraping the floor because of my very uneven face, and after surgery, I became obsessed with cheek sagging or skin elasticity and felt sad wondering why I was like this because I couldn’t eat everything I wanted or do everything I wanted like before. (Self lymphatic massage before bed + lying upside down + vegetarian diet to prevent aging, etc.)
Then yesterday, around when my depression hit its peak, I talked with a high school classmate and realized a few things, so I’m taking a moment to write here because I wanted to share them. While working my part-time job, I suddenly wondered what I was doing, but I think there are definitely many people like me, so even though I’m not a good writer, I’ll keep it short.
I developed a habit of taking photos of myself every night and comparing them with before surgery. Even though only about 6 months have passed, I guess I was afraid of cheek sagging. Actually, even before surgery I already had some bulging fat beside my lips and hollowness beside my nose, but for no reason it felt like it had gotten worse after surgery, so I cried every night. Even though I’m in the very, very, very early part of my 20s, it somehow felt like my elasticity had dropped for no reason.. I had the surgery accepting the risk of cheek sagging, but once my skin looked even slightly saggy, I immediately cried.
In the middle of that, I met a friend and talked, and when they started comforting me, asking how I ended up like this, I burst into tears. If I write roughly what I remember my friend saying (they speak a bit bluntly, but they’re a dear friend of 5 years..ㅠㅠ): “Is there a reason you keep holding up a mirror and looking at yourself when you say the nasolabial folds bother you and cheek sagging bothers you every time you look in the mirror? You got surgery so you wouldn’t feel sad when looking in the mirror. What are you going to do if you keep doing that even after surgery? You say it seems like your cheeks have sagged, it seems like your skin has stretched, but actually, when people pass by you, they don’t say, ‘Wow, her cheeks are sagging.’ They don’t look at you with that much interest.
But what help is it to you to take pictures every night and stare at your face? Doesn’t it only lower your self-esteem and make you blame yourself for having surgery? Whether your cheeks sag or your skin stretches a little, why does that matter? You improved a lot compared to before. Isn’t that enough? Even if your skin does stretch, so what? Is there a problem? Is it a problem if you look slightly older? Do you think people around you will tell you every day that your cheeks have sagged? No. Rather, from the moment you say your cheeks have sagged, even people who didn’t have surgery will look like their cheeks have sagged.
Hey, I want you to have your own standards. I don’t mean that in a bad way, like saying you have no backbone. I mean I don’t want you to fit yourself into the world’s mold. Build your own pillar. Rather than wasting your time trying to fit yourself to ‘pretty people are good people,’ I think it’s more valuable to find what makes you happy. Whether your cheeks sag, you lose elasticity, or your cheekbones didn’t go in enough, none of that is a problem in living life. And there’s no one who will treat you cruelly just because you aren’t pretty. Even if there is someone like that, that person is wrong; it’s not because of your appearance. You didn’t get surgery because you wanted praise from the wrong people; you got it to raise your self-esteem. Why do you keep trying to fit yourself into the world’s mold? It’s not like everyone in the world has united and decided cheek sagging is bad..
Don’t spend your time cutting down your self-esteem.”
If I roughly recreate the situation, these were the kinds of things they said. To summarize: 1. It doesn’t matter even if cheek sagging happens. People do not analyze your face. 2. You had surgery to cherish yourself, so don’t blame yourself. Only you, not other people, analyze your face. 3. Why do you dig into the parts you dislike? You say you’re worried about cheek sagging, but what help is it to look in the mirror all day and worry? Find the path that makes you happy, whether it’s a hobby or whatever.
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After hearing things like that, it all sounded right. Myself before talking with my friend: Did cheek sagging happen? Ah, I’m screwed. I guess it happened. Ugh, I shouldn’t have had surgery. After talking: So what if cheek sagging happens? I am still me. And if cheek sagging happens, I can get it lifted, so why am I buying worries in advance? I can earn money through part-time work, so why was I worrying ahead of time?
So I’m a bit happy now. Actually, because of this, I’m trying to change my thinking from “vegetarian diet to prevent aging!” to “vegetarian diet for health,” and that heavy feeling in my heart feels much lighter. Please don’t get hurt by searching YouTube and deliberately looking at comments like “If you do cheekbone surgery, cheek sagging comes 100%,” worrying about something that hasn’t even come yet, or even if it has, is minimal, or is natural aging caused by the passage of time rather than surgery. How about spending that time doing something that can make you happy?
And when people go out of their way to comment “cheek sagging comes 100%” on reviews, even if they leave it because they’re worried, to others it comes across as a comment cursing them to get cheek sagging. Could it be compared to telling someone eating candy, “You’ll 100% live at the dentist- it’ll 100% rot”? I think it would be better for everyone if those comments were given as advice to people still considering cheekbone surgery, and not deliberately left for people who already had it. People come back and leave reviews because they want to give back as much as they were helped. (Well, if a post smells like a broker and like it’s pushing plastic surgery, then go ahead and attack it, hehe..)
Anyway, because I have a good friend, my heart feels much happier now. They’re a friend who will soon go abroad to study, but they helped me a lot until the end. They comforted me so much during entrance exams and after I entered university too, and always took my side. I should buy them a meal. I’m very grateful :)
Then bye-ing
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